Why Love

College years are considered to be the golden time for courting. But I wonder whether we college students know the true meaning of love. Many students don't, they believe that happiness is just a sense of loving and being loved. As a result, they grow attached to each other. Yes, it is one result of love, and the most desirable one. However, this expectation is likely to become perseverance¹ in the pursuit of love and result in love conflict. 

 

Each love course can be unique as each person is unique. Owing to different family backgrounds and pressures, everyone has his own history and future, and personal character. And love is supposed to savor²（尽情享受） life, to find our weakness, deficiencies and the true colors of humanity, to grow mature by learning, to grasp the true meaning of life, and to learn to free ourselves and requite³ others' love in the process of courting.

 

However, the majority of college students believe that campus love is just to find a partner to get rid of loneliness and boredom⁴ and enjoy happiness. Yes, if both of the two are of mature mentality⁵ and strong willingness to love, love can be raised to a higher level –to enjoy happiness. Yet, many college students do not treasure the happiness from love, instead, they are favor of nit-picking their boyfriend or girlfriend and demanding more and more things. Therefore, "love passionately⁶ today, break up tomorrow" is understandable. In my eyes, these students totally misunderstand the true meaning of love. After all, we come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly⁷. Love is to cultivate ourselves. It is only when we have seen through and perfected ourselves that our love is worthy⁸.

 

To view from the perspective as a college student, I dare not assert whether it is right to court during college years. But I have a feeling that as college students stepping into the society, it is our responsibility to adopt a serious attitude towards campus love. Many college students become depressed⁹ after their first love comes to an end. As a matter of fact, I think it is unnecessary to be depressed at all. In my opinion, first love is just encountering a right or wrong person when you long for courting. As far as first love is concerned, it tells us what is not love rather than what is love. So we do not need to care too much about the failure of first love.

 

Love is really beautiful, as Kahlil Gibran once wrote:

 

To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving; 

 

To rest at the noon hour and meditate¹⁰ love's ecstasy¹¹;

 

To return home at eventide with gratitude¹²;

 

And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips.

 

So do not lose the chance when you know who is suited to you temperamentally. Love starts when another person's needs become more important than your own. Once we know the true meaning of love, we are supposed to treasure it.

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